Monday, March 26, 2012

moving along...

Things in life and on the adoption front are moving along.

We were surprised by God after we got waitlisted with our agency. We believed that we were done with our adoption "stuff" until we got a referral in 8 months to a year. However we found out that in all of the changes that had been taking place in Uganda the chance of getting siblings with our agency was slim. So slim in fact that if things kept moving at the rate they had been (which could at any time speed up or slow down, just as it had done this time) we would potentially be looking at a wait time of 3-5 years. They were incredibly patient with us as we explored all of our options, prayed, cried, complained, and then cried some more. Eventually and finally, we decided that we felt God leading us to do this adoption independently. Basically, that means that we are not using an agency. So normally an agency works with a baby home or orphanage and that is where you get your referral from, and then you use their attorney, and they guide you through the whole process. Doing the adoption independently means that we have found and hired our own attorney and we have emailed and contacted multiple orphanages and baby homes about getting on waitlists and finding a referral.

We have seen God in this, and we have seen our enemy attacking this. We have seen God bless this path, but there have been bumps in it. We have been blessed by other Christians and we have seen other Christians hurt us deeply. This last part has been eye opening to me. I have always known that the enemy can use the tongue of Christians to bring pain and grief into the lives of other believers. However, when you are on the receiving end of this, I'm not gonna lie, it hurts... As in all things though, the Holy Spirit has used the situation to shed light on my own life and has caused me to look in the mirror. It has left me wondering when has my carelessness and when has my tongue hurt my sisters and brothers in Christ? It has caused my anger and hurt to fizzle and has allowed me to forgive. It has also taught me that I need to just shut up sometimes. This is one of those times. The rest of the details about the adoption at this point will have to be kept between us and our immediate family for the time being. We will update as soon as we possibly can, promise.

So what does this mean as far as time, money, kids, etc? The short answer is that we just don't know. And we are not going to rush it. Adoption is serious business that has huge implications financially, ethically, emotionally, etc. We are not going to take a chance at compromising anything to make these adoptions happen. So we are praying, trusting both God and the people who we are working with, praying some more, and choosing our steps carefully.

We love you all and cherish your prayers both for this process and for us. That God will go before us and that He will make Himself known to both us and to those we are working with, that we will all have peace in conscious as we proceed, and that He guide literally every step, every breath. Like no other time in our life, we are completely and 100% dependent on the Spirit of God in this situation. We have no control over what happens 1/2 way around the world regarding our case. We are both excited to see what God is going to do, and pretty scared as well. Pray for us, Pray for us, Pray for us.

Love you guys! I will post in the next day or so about our sweet baby's 2nd Birthday!!

Monday, March 5, 2012


in more ways than one...

Maybe some of you have noticed that our little thermometer to the right is gaining more and more green on it! We have been completely overwhelmed by the generosity of our loved ones. Friends and family members have stepped out and donated to us in ways that aren't just generous, but that are overwhelmingly generous, and all we can do is sit here amazed at the goodness of God and at the body of Christ.

Just to break it down for you a bit, we raised a little over $1,600.00 with fundraisers and we received a $2,500.00 grant from our church!! But the part that really knocks our socks off is that we have received over $15,400 from donations from friends and family, including one very generous gift from an Anonymous donor!

I know that there are many people out there who don't really understand why people would give to adoption. Many people ask "if you can't afford it, why do it?" Well an adoptive mom wrote a great post about that here. The easiest way for me to say it is this: Many many families can afford to have multiple children, however, I do not know many families that have an extra $30,000.00 laying around that they can pay in bulk all at once. This is not a reflection on our (our any other adoptive family's)ability to support these children when they get home or a reflection on our frugality. We also believe that every Christian has been called to take an active role in orphan care and that for some people that is adopting and for some people that is giving financially to help make adoption possible for others, amongst many other ways. I wouldn't be being honest if I failed to mention the fact that as a family we have been enormously challenged and convicted by the generosity of others towards us and our adoption and how we have lacked so much in this way in the past. God has a way of using others to show us our own shortcomings, of which there are many :)

Finally, some of you may have spoken with us or inferred from some of my facebook posts and emails that things are not going as planned in this adoption journey (I have recently decided the leisurely implication of the word "journey" very poorly depicts adoption, I'm thinking that "roller-coaster" is a better and more descriptive term.) Don't freak out on us, we are most definitely STILL adopting from Uganda, in fact, we are eyeball deep in this whole thing... International Adoption is not easy or straightforward, especially in Uganda... but good thing is, we didn't sign up for easy...

Love you all and thank you for all the support via prayer and money. We will never be able to thank you enough.